Are YOU Struggling With Success?
As you may have noticed, I have not blogged here in almost two years. During that time, I’ve been trying one latest thing after another which has landed me right back where I started. Nowhere! However, I have recently made some life-altering discoveries I want to share with you in the hope that you’ll get back on track much faster than I did. Let’s start from the top.
It’s Important To Care About What You Do
What I mean here is trying to make your business just about throwing up as many sites as you can and hoping something sticks is a BAD business model. I know people who do this and are successful at it. I know they also work more than 12 hours per day and take very little breaks or vacations.
Is that your definition of success?
I also know for them to accomplish this model there is a HUGE amount of time and money wasted that could be used to make something they’re really passionate about one hundred times better. I know we’ve gone through what I’ll call “seasons” of internet marketing.
First, we had the groundbreakers in the mid to late 1990s who were the first or only people in an online niche and profited more from this fact than the quality of the content they provided.
Next, we had the “I can do it all” marketers who had some technical proficiency in one area of online business and forced themselves to learn many others to keep costs down. This is closer to the time that I first got online. It wasn’t until many years into this I realized the major reason we had to try to contain costs is because our business model necessitated it. Money was bleeding from the tons of inefficient activities we were engaging in making it necessary to try to plug it in the areas we felt we could control like outsourcing. Sure, we’d pay 100 bucks a month for a link building “strategy” (read scheme), but the thought of giving a webmaster responsibility for our online properties we saw as a ludicrous waste of income. I was just about finished with this whole internet business thing when a big bomb dropped…
My father passed away.
Taking A Hard Look At My Life
It was my father’s passing that I most credit for me taking the hardest look at my life. I wasn’t living the life I envisioned when I started this business and I wasn’t heading in the right direction. It made me stop and ask what is really important to me and my family. Sure, I’d had some success here and there but I wasn’t really doing anything I considered noble or important. I started searching around for a mentor and I found Dan Miller of “48 Days to the Work You Love” fame. I started following his podcast and reading his blog. His basic tenet is this: you don’t have to do work you love OR make money. You can and should do both. In fact, the people who are the most successful have done it doing something they love. He further believes that to be successful in life you have to make deposits into many areas of your life: financial, social, spiritual and physical among them. Finding somebody who’s not trying to tactically sacrifice one area or another for ultimate success is a real eye-opener.
The other thing I began to see is the effect our mindset has on success. I’ve learned that you get more of what you focus on and it’s your choice if that’s going to be positive or negative thoughts. This goes way beyond the glass half full thinking. I have noticed for some time that when I would look at a desired outcome I would think of it in terms of how it was NOT going to happen rather than how it would. This shuts down your creativity in a way that’s hard to measure. Conversely, seeing how you CAN make something work opens your creative mind up to possibilities you would never have considered otherwise. Funny thing is you expend an equal amount of mental energy either way.
If you take nothing away from this post but the preceding paragraph, you will have made a major impact on your life!
In the same vein, I’ve found The Science of Getting Rich and their Practical Geniuses course. I know this sounds like a scammy, get-rich-quick scheme but it’s actually a mindset hack. The basic premise is along the lines of the Law of Attraction but the book was written way before that. Basically, if you decided clearly what it is that you want in life and focus on it every day you can make it come your way. Most people stumble in creating a clear vision and then keeping it in their minds through to completion. I’m certainly a novice but completely believe in its power.
Dan Miller led me to Michael Hyatt who was the former CEO of Thomas Nelson publishing. He has taught me a ton about intentional leadership and integrity. I haven’t yet read his latest book, “Platform: How To Get Noticed in a Noisy World” but it’s on my to-read list on Amazon. This guy doesn’t give you the “I’m great and here’s why” mentality either. He talks all the time about his struggles with producing the best content, making the best decisions while keeping his life together. His transparency is refreshing and inspiring. He’s a big believer that the product you actually produce is light years ahead of the one you never start.
I’ve become a podcast junkie. In a kind of daisy-chain way, I’ve found Entrepreneur On Fire, Smart Passive Income, Internet Business Mastery, Zig Ziglar Michael Hyatt and Tara Brach. Each of these has contributed to the mind-shift underway currently. I’ll be talking about each of these in future posts. For now, suffice it to say that they range from getting me to appreciate this moment (Tara Brach) to actionable business advice (Smart Passive Income, Internet Business Mastery, Michael Hyatt) to hearing how successful entrepreneurs got to be that way (Entrepreneur On Fire, Michael Hyatt, Zig Ziglar).
What Have I Learned So Far?
We each have within ourselves the seeds of growth and capacity to do great things. We just let life get in the way. We can’t turn around, as I have, in another 20 years and wonder where it went. We all have to decide what it is that will make us truly happy and go for it. We’re not going to do anything unless we work outside our comfort zones. We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with so we need to spend time with people who share our visions. We DON’T need to spend time with negative people or doing things that bring us down a notch. We are incredibly resilient and resourceful beings if we believe we are. Ultimately, our lives need to be about why we were put on this planet and not just about making the next dollar.
I have cleaned up my diet, gotten completely off of the only drug I was taking (prilosec), starting to get some consistency in my exercise routine, meditate every morning and do yoga and stretch before bedtime. I am sleeping much better and feel better generally than I have in a long time. More on this in later posts too.
What Actions Have I Taken?
I have divested myself of almost all but my dearest internet holdings. I have committed to improving them and developing others that share a passion link. I will NOT undertake ANY project which does not resonate with my purpose in life. Namely, helping others to succeed in life, PERIOD! I have sketched out the basic direction this site will be going in and have committed to seeing it through step by step. More about that in the next post. You should start seeing changes coming within the next month. They may be subtle at first, but eventually this blog will be transformed into a blog for everybody engaged in making their lives count for something.
The first thing you will notice is this blog will not be just about how to make more money online. Sure, that will be an part of the mix but that’s not all there is to life and we all know it. The mission of this blog will be “Aligning yourself with success.” Success is a many faceted thing and I want to share my insights and resources to help you achieve it-whatever that is for you.
Where Are You At?
Are you living the life you dreamed of? If you are, we would love to hear any tips you can share on how you got to that place. If you’re not, why not? What do you think has held you back the most and what are you going to do about it? Either way, leave me a comment and let me know what you are working on now and what challenges you’re facing.
As I’ve mentioned, in the coming weeks, months and years I’ll be breaking down the things that have helped and hurt me throughout my life online. I challenge you to stay tuned and be ready to jump in head first.
Next post: Rebuilding my blog for success
Follow me as I outline the changes I’ll need to make to this blog to get it up to date and helping as many people as possible. No stone will go unturned and nothing will be hidden from you. I’ll tell it like it is and show you exactly what I’m going to do and how I’ll do it. Stay tuned….
Entrepreneur On Fire A daily format-driven podcast by John Dumas where he talks each day with top entrpreneurs.
Internet Business Mastery A membership site which focuses on growing a business in line with your Single Major Purpose in life. I have not joined yet but you can grab their podcast here and decide for yourself if they speak to you.
Michael Hyatt Web site which concentrates on living with more passion, working with greater focus and leading with extraordinary influence. He is the author of Platform: How to get noticed in a noisy world and his podcast can be found here.
The Science of Getting Rich Based on a book by Wallace Wattles written in 1912, this system is about deciding in clear terms what you want and how to attract it to you.
Zig Ziglar Do I really need to explain this entry? One of true great motivational speakers that ever lived. More than that, one of the most successful entrepreneurs as well. Sadly, he passed away in 2012 but you can still find his podcast here if you every find yourself needing what I call “brain food.”
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