Don’t Compare Yourself To Anybody

We All Do It

We’ve all got friends that we “know” have it made.  They’ve been working in the same field they graduated college with a degree in for years.  We’re “sure” they have their retirements almost set and their investments all in a row.  When they retire, they’re going to travel the world and move from one beautiful place to another until they’re too old to travel.  Then, they’ll just stay in whatever country they find themselves in, right?

Is this reality?  My point here is what if it is?  What difference should that make to us.  Other than using this fiction we create to make ourselves feel inferior or lesser in some way how does this help us?

It doesn’t.

Setting Your Own Course

Measuring yourself by another is useless.  If we think we’re superior then we’ll feel better for a few minutes.  If we feel inferior that feeling can attach itself to us.  It’s this feeling which can cloud our ability to set goals for ourselves.  Always feeling like somebody has it better does not help you to ground yourself and take stock of where YOU are and where YOU want to get to in life.

This doesn’t even take into account how a negative mindset can actually push away from you the things you’re trying to attract.  Readers of the Science of Getting Rich will know exactly what I’m talking about here.  For others, let me just say I’m a firm believer that you get more of what you pay attention to.  If you spend your days focusing in on what you lack, you’ll attract more of that into your life.  Thoughts of gratitude for all you have will bring more of what you truly want.

Things To Try

Here are some things you can do to help you:

• Spend more time being grateful for what you have than being upset about what you don’t.
• Don’t allow yourself to see your friends and associates in terms of more or less successful than you.  Rather, see them as your support team and appreciate what you can teach them and what you can learn from them.
• If somebody is making a million dollars/month and you’re not, don’t feel less for it but do take the opportunity to find out what they’re doing different than you.  Don’t think it’s just their occupation.  Look closer.  Success leaves clues and don’t be too intimidated to ask them how they achieved theirs.
• Take some time each day to think of at least one thing in your life you are thankful for.
• Never stop setting and revising goals.  Always aim high and out of your comfort zone.
• Remember their are no complete failures in life.  As long as you walk away with a lesson learned you’re better for the experience.

I hope you’ve found this as much fun to read as I’ve had writing it.  Please leave me a comment and let me know what you think.  I really want to hear from you.